Drink water from your own well – share your love only with your wife. Why spill the water of your springs in the streets, having sex with just anyone? Proverbs 5:15-16, NLT Leading something other than your home has a way of drawing your affections from your marriage into other places. Call it stress, growing apart, temptation, or whatever you like. But here’s the truth, many leaders, if they are not careful, will find themselves looking for love in all the wrong places. Sex outside of marriage is one of many drugs leaders use to satisfy carnal thirst and emotional voids. When we are unaware of our need for emotional and intimate connection, our eyes, ears, and affections are easily led down a temporary but euphoric pathway, leading only to slaughter. How can you protect your marriage from the demands placed on you in your leadership role? Let me suggest

A good leader motivates, doesn’t mislead, doesn’t exploit. Proverbs 16:10 explained You’re a leader and you are preparing a presentation to your team, investors, and stakeholders. Oh, and you only have an hour to prepare! I assume you are knowledgeable about the facts of your situation and you know the direction you want to go. Now, you have to organize your thoughts and present them in a positive and convincing manner. Here’s how. Preparing your Presentation Effectively in 3 steps Start with revealing WHAT IS. WHAT IS describes the good, bad, and ugly of the current situation. If you can spell this out in an honest and objective way, you will establish some credibility and others will see you have both feet planted on the ground of reality. This first part does not need to be long but it needs to be clear and to the point. Example: We have

…he offers his friendship to the godly. Proverbs 3:32, NLT I don’t hear the word godly used much anymore. I wonder if it’s because it is a religious word. The word itself assumes there is a God but it is spelled with a lowercase g for a reason. To live in a godly way is admirable but it still falls short of who God is. So what does it mean to be godly and why can’t we use the word in everyday speech without worry of offending someone or having Human Resources notified? Think about it. Wouldn’t you want your boss to be more godly? He or she would be consistent, forgiving, and super smart. Scripture teaches that we are all created as God’s image bearers. I think that means there is evidence in every person that someone or something exists within us that has the ability and desire to

“My child, don’t reject the Lord’s discipline, and don’t be upset when he corrects you. For the Lord corrects those he loves, just as a father corrects a child in whom he delights.” ‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭3‬:‭11‬-‭12‬ ‭NLT‬‬ I now consider some of my childhood experiences with those in authority over me to be quite funny. I think of Mrs. Body, my fourth-grade teacher. She grabbed me by the ear and led me to the principal’s office while I bled from the side of my head. A couple of friends and I were late to class because we enjoyed a little too much recess. As we ran toward class to beat the final bell, a swinging gate collided with my right temple, and down I went. The next thing I remember was Mrs. Body picking me up by my ear and dragging me away. A year later, while playing football at recess,

Honor the Lord with your wealth and with the best part of everything you produce. Then he will fill your barns with grain, and your vats will overflow with good wine. Proverbs 3:9-10, NLT My family has a competitive personality. We love games and contests. One of our family slogans goes like this: If you’re not first, you’re last. It’s also the name of our football fantasy league. There’s nothing like the first place! We appreciate your effort, and we applaud achievements. Isn’t this the essence of what the ancients are trying to convey in the above proverb? If there is a God who is responsible for giving you life, why wouldn’t you want to offer him your best? Your best efforts, your best designs, your best creations, and the best of everything. Why wouldn’t you want to steward your life toward the highest good? Faith-Based Excellence: Honoring God in

Never let loyalty and kindness leave you! Tie them around your neck as a reminder. Write them deep within your heart. Then you will find favor with both God and people, and you will earn a good reputation. – Proverbs 3:3-4, NLT Marriage, family, friends, neighbors, team members, and partnerships have written, implied, or assumed allegiances. As citizens, we actively pledge loyalty to our country. As Christians, we commit to follow the way of Christ. We offer loyalty and kindness as the glue that keeps us together. It builds trust, confidence, and productivity. Loyalty is not always easy but it is a virtue admired by heaven and earth. How to Become a Loyal Person and Build Loyalty in Relationships Think Relationship, not Transaction. Relationships require work and patience. Transactions give something in exchange for something else. Relationships require dialogue, clarifications, and room for imperfect people and disagreements. They require forgiveness.

Wise choices will watch over you. Proverbs 2:11, NLT If you like sports, you hear it all the time. “We are going to approach this season one game at a time.” If you listen to the coaches, it’s all about becoming excellent in the basics – blocking and tackling. Practice the fundamentals of the game. One pitch at a time. If you play golf, it’s the same thing. One shot at a time. These are common in sports phraseology. They seem simple and obvious but those who do them best usually experience a high level of success. How do these phrases apply to your life? How do they apply to your work? Your leadership? And why are they considered wise? Making Wiser Choices Slow Down. We make better decisions when we slow life down. Do you have a morning routine or do you stay up too late and rush out

Such is the fate of all who are greedy for money; it robs them of life. Proverbs 1:19, NLT I know people who are really good at making money, I know generous people, I know frugal people. I know greedy people and I bet you do too. Making money is a skill. In some cases, it seems to be a talent. Generosity is the same. Some have developed it through discipline and principle. Some have a gift of giving. Frugality is sometimes wise and sometimes foolish. Many spend too much and some miss out on profit because of it. Greed on the other hand is something completely different. Greed is the source of excessive debt. We want more than we can afford and the thirst just cannot be quenched. Greed hordes money and resources even when releasing it can help so many people. It loves praise but lacks the ability

Their purpose [Proverbs of Solomon] is to teach people to live disciplined and successful lives, to help do what is right, just, and fair. Proverbs 1:3, NLT Leaders seek wisdom. They work to transform busyness into effectiveness. Activity into production. Fog into focus. Bad into good. Good into great. Transformation does not happen overnight. It takes time and discipline. Too many underestimate what it takes to live healthy lives and to lead others. To serve as an effective leader and to sustain long-term success requires discipline – a lot of it. Anything I want to improve in my life and leadership requires more discipline. If there is a secret surrounding success, it’s discipline. It’s not a popular headline. It’s never the title of a best-selling book or movie. There is no success without discipline. What is a successful life?  Doing what is right, just, and fair. When you look back

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take.” ‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭3‬:‭5‬-‭6‬ ‭NLT‬‬ Do you sometimes struggle with worry and anxiety? Me too. However, the proverb above challenges us to shift our focus and pursuits. It encourages us to take a moment to examine what truly matters. We are called to seek the right counsel and consider what is important. The final difference between one leader and another is often determined by how much pressure they can endure. When a leader is strong, their presence radiates calm, confidence, and courage. But where can we find such strength? Isn’t it through faith? Yet, faith in what? The strength and usefulness of our faith are only as powerful as the object in which we place it. You place faith in the

Trust in the Lord, and do good; dwell in the land and befriend faithfulness. Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him, and he will act. Psalm 37:3-5 There are six points I discuss when speaking to young leaders. The sixth is TRUST GOD FOR THE LONG TERM.  This exhortation is not just for young leaders, is it? Whenever I am tempted to believe in my strength or the maturity of my faith, I get knocked off my horse. What knocks you off yours? Where are you most vulnerable to fear and anxiousness? Is it financial? Family? Health? Global unrest? Your job? Economic decline? Your business? Unfaithfulness? Betrayal? A false witness? A dispute with a neighbor or customer or employee? A partner?  My greatest place of vulnerability is with my family. If any of

I’ve been reading and meditating through the book of Genesis. I’ve probably read this text more than all the others (other than Proverbs). This morning, I journeyed back to the time when Rebekah and her son Jacob deceived their beloved Issac and Esau. Isaac, the aged husband, and father. Esau is the older twin brother of Jacob. There’s plenty of family dysfunction laying the foundation for this terrible event. There’s competition, jealousy, favoritism, greed, and deception – not the recipe for success. Mother and son literally stole what belonged to the other son. How it grieved the dying father and the swindled son. You can read the details for yourself in Genesis 27. Truth and Deception After reading and contemplating this event, I immediately brought my wife into the conversation. She was very familiar with the story. This event happened around 4000 years ago and we still mourn it today.

There is profit in hard work, but mere talk leads to poverty. Proverbs 14:23 I’m sure there is a good reason for the phrase “Work-Life Balance” but I fail to see what the fuss is all about. Forgive me HR professionals or perhaps agree with what I am about to say. Whenever I hear someone say they’re looking for a job that provides a work-life balance, I have an instant reaction of confusion as if the person’s opening statement was “One plus one equals two”. Did they really need to say that? Who doesn’t want to enjoy their life? But never in my life have I worried about having balance.  The Myth of Work-Life Balance If I don’t have it, it’s probably because I am pursuing something of greater significance than balance. If I don’t have balance, and I need it, and I can create it, I do just that.

We all experience disappointment. It’s personal. It’s emotional. It drains you of energy and discourages your optimism. In fact, it’s a force that can erode your dreams, and even your values. Maybe it’s a goal not achieved or a hope not realized. Maybe it was a promise unfulfilled, an agreement broken, or the typical over-promise and under-deliver pledge lived out before your eyes. Disappointment can cause you to pull back from relationships and give less than your best. The truth is clear: Most disappointments are tangled up in relationships. The familiar feeling can be summarized in the phrase, “He let me down.” Leaders experience disappointment too. Sitting in the leader’s chair is a very difficult reality to describe. It’s a constant, never-ending, existence of demands. Your team looks to you for direction, answers, justice, and understanding. And you cannot accomplish the vision without them. You’re all in it together. Dealing

An Overview of 1 Timothy 6 Generosity in Leadership I’m surprised how few leadership talks address the issues surrounding money. I’m not talking about how to make more money. Plenty of talk about that. I’m not talking about investing money. Plenty of talk about that. I’m not talking about spending money. Plenty of talk about that. I’m talking about being generous with money. Popular Studies Reveal Multiple Outcomes and Benefits of Generosity Enhanced Well-Being Improved Physical Health Stronger Social Connections Reduced Stress and Improved Mental Health Positive Impact On Others Increased Sense Of Purpose And Meaning We shouldn’t give, to get, but that’s how it works. And every honest leader knows the difference between giving and giving generously. Generously is a big word. It’s not always a big number but it is always big to the person who gives generously. It’s never about equal gifts, it’s about equal sacrifice. How