I sent the following note to my family: What do I want to do with the rest of my life? I believe life is a gift from God and what I do with it is my gift back to him. I believe I will literally be able to hand my life back to him someday. I want to continue to grow my faith, practice, and contributions  I want to enjoy and invest in my marriage. I want to enjoy and invest in my kids (Jim & Amanda, Mandy & Greg). I want to enjoy and invest in my grandkids – each one, as individuals and as a group. I want to take care of myself: body & soul. This includes identifying bad habits and mastering them (my intake of food and drink, my thoughts, my words, and my actions). I want to live in a positive yet counter-cultural way, always

Intelligent people are always ready to learn. Their ears are open for knowledge. Proverbs 18.15 Good perspective is good theology. It’s your life philosophy. Do you have one? Yes, I know you do. One day I realized something. I consciously recognized that I did not choose to be born. I did not choose life. Nor did I have the power to do so. I had no consciousness. I did not exist, except in the mind of God. If that’s true, then life is a gift. No matter how long or short. Whether good or bad, it’s a gift. What makes it a gift? Your soul makes it a gift. Think of your soul as a spiritual and eternal location, an address where God can find you.  Once our body finally says, “I’m done, that’s all I got,” our soul returns to the one who thought us into existence – no

I just finished a podcast interview with Gary Harpst, the author of Built to Beat Chaos.  “I’ve never had a job in my life”. This was one of the first things he said to me before I began recording. Did he mean it literally or figuratively? Discovering Your Purpose During our discussion, he brought up the idea of purpose. He said that leaders have two primary responsibilities. To define the purpose of their organization and to build a culture that best supports both the people and the purpose. I like that. Simple does not mean easy but it really helps create clarity and focus. He also said something only an engineer’s mind would think. He said that because we are made in the image of God, we can learn about our purpose by learning about God through not only the Bible and participating in a church but also by taking

I am happy to say last year was a good year for me, and I hope the same for you. It was not a perfect year—because life just doesn’t work that way—but I did accomplish my one goal. My one BIG goal. It was not easy. In fact, it was much more difficult than I imagined. But isn’t that true with most worthy goals? Capturing a Resilient Perspective: Three Focus Circles Like you, I am not a perfect human being, but I have learned to practice a resilient perspective. That kind of perspective embraces thoughtfulness, self-awareness, self-leadership, gratefulness, and focus. What I’m about to share works for me, and it has proven helpful to many of my clients. Imagine a dart board—a target. There are three overlapping rings or circles. The one in the middle, we often call the bull’s eye. Picture that center circle on your target, but larger

If you’ve never experienced frustration by falling short of your goals, you don’t need to read this. If you’ve never experienced disappointment with your team’s performance, you don’t need to read this. For the rest of us, consider what has worked for me, maybe it will work for you. Stubborn Strategy I liken a stubborn strategy to a tug-o-war. If the participants really want to win, you’ll see them encourage one another. You’ll hear one or two give short motivational speeches. They will organize themselves from the front to the back and everyone in between. If even the smallest or weakest person quits, it can spell disaster. Each team member digs their feet in trying to create a secure foothold. This feat may cost them a rope burn, a skinned-up knee, or a muscle cramp. But they will not give an inch until finally, they pull the opposing team across

You’re facing a new year and you’re not happy about the last one. What can you do differently? Well, let’s start with something Clint Pies said on my podcast, the Today Counts Show, episode 90: Dealing with Difficult People. “What you ignore becomes more and what you address becomes less.” The most difficult person to lead is you. If you learn to lead yourself in a healthy and positive way, many (not all) will follow. When that happens, teams win, and winning feels great. What do we ignore? We ignore what’s hard. We ignore the truth when it is not pleasant. And we ignore the things that make us feel bad. We ignore things we don’t like to do. We ignore things we don’t want to hear. Lastly, we ignore what we don’t do well.  If we ignore, we take the path of least resistance, others who follow in our

The journey of personal growth and leadership through the decades I left off last week with the big idea that perhaps the most difficult person to lead is yourself. It seems every season of life requires the right mindset and a new toolbox. When you’re young, single, and overflowing with energy, it’s about laying a foundation. It’s about learning. In Your Thirties When you’re in your thirties, your strengths are becoming more noticeable. Your blind spots too. If you’re driven, you get promoted and receive more responsibility. That’s when you realize things are not as easy as you thought them to be. You were probably promoted because you demonstrated some of your innate skills, they came naturally. Gifts from God. But they only take you so far because God designed life as a partnership. Now it’s time to grow up. To humble yourself. You’re not as smart as you thought

As a young man, I knew nothing about leadership. Even though I found myself in leadership roles since childhood (chosen to give speeches, captain of teams, etc.), I didn’t know anything about it. If I happened to lead, it was by accident. Maybe it was intuitive or maybe I was modeling what effort looks like. I’ve always been competitive and strategic; therefore, winning simply felt right. Whatever it was, leading was certainly not conscious, informed, or intentional. I did not know that leadership starts with consciously evaluating and leading me. I didn’t know it was about serving others. And I did not realize how complex I was – how complex people are. I did not realize that I WOULD BE THE MOST DIFFICULT PERSON to lead. I did not realize that we all have an inner person. Dare I say, inner persons? In some ways, I was mature beyond my

Never speak harshly to an older man, but appeal to him respectfully as you would to your own father. Talk to younger men as you would to your own brothers. Treat older women as you would your mother, and treat younger women with all purity as you would your own sisters. – The Apostle Paul If you read and if you listen closely to the voices around you, truth and goodness cut through all the noise. You can hear hundreds of ideas expressed within an hour of one day but when you hear something good and something right, it rings like a bell. That’s exactly my experience when I read the quote above.  I recognize business excellence when I see it. It’s difficult to miss because most experiences are average or below average. The business, ministry, or person who delivers excellence does not need to be concerned about competition. There

“Amateurs focus on outcomes. Professionals focus on process.” – Dr. Eric Potterat  We all have goals. We may or may not write them down but we think about them. Let’s be real. Most of our goals are really more like wishes. We wish we were healthier. We wish we had more money. Or we wish we loved what we do. We wish our relationships were stronger. We wish we earned this degree or received that promotion. They are wishes because we don’t do anything about them. How do you transform a wish into a goal and a goal into an accomplishment? The answer is not glamorous. Nor is it flashy. It’s about reflection, honesty, and integrity. It’s about planning. It is about discipline. It’s about resiliency. It’s about mental toughness.  TEN REASONS WHY WE QUIT We quit because we never considered what accomplishing the goal might require We quit because we

I can do all this through Him who gives me strength – The Apostle Paul My sister is an amazing woman. She is also a psychiatric nurse practitioner. Her life’s journey would inspire even those without a detectable pulse but I’ll save that story for another time. I asked her why the phrase “Mental Illness” is now commonplace. It seems to me that it is on the rise or we are simply more aware. Perhaps both could be true? Mental Illness: A lack of mental resilience? She paused and pensively confessed that she had been thinking a lot about that question. And then she spilled the beans. “Do you think it’s because we just are not as tough as those who have gone before us?”  Drop the mic. Think about it. We have more luxuries than ever Our rights are violated if we can’t share in someone else’s success (whatever

Erin Porteous is the CEO of The Boys & Girls Clubs of Metro Denver. I have enjoyed working with her over the past few years. She is a down-to-earth person who strives to provide excellent leadership to her amazing organization. I asked her to share her closely held or core leadership values. The lenses she looks through evaluating her leadership as well as shaping the culture of her team and organization. I believe her work is worth the read. Four Values: Hard work, Humility, Humor and Honesty  As leaders, we all have core values that we live by. Intentional leaders align both personal and professional values to make a succinct focus for anchoring priorities and ensuring consistency across all facets of their lives. The highest caliber of leaders consistently demonstrate a commitment to values even when no one is around. This is called integrity. The interesting part is these micro-actions

So.. what does it mean to elevate your leadership and how is it done? Elevate: To elevate your leadership is to increase your ability to drive results. It is to create a higher vantage point and therefore to see the most strategic and tactical moves toward winning. Winning is about accomplishing your chief aim – your one major goal. Kids learn how to dribble a soccer ball or basketball as they look down and concentrate on the task. Elevated players are able to dribble the ball with their head up and therefore see the field or the court and make the plays that improve the team’s ability to score and win. In other words, any activity that requires you to look down or away from the field of play for any significant period of time is the wrong activity for an effective executive. How?: Carve out one hour of time

Drink water from your own well – share your love only with your wife. Why spill the water of your springs in the streets, having sex with just anyone? Proverbs 5:15-16, NLT Leading something other than your home has a way of drawing your affections from your marriage into other places. Call it stress, growing apart, temptation, or whatever you like. But here’s the truth, many leaders, if they are not careful, will find themselves looking for love in all the wrong places. Sex outside of marriage is one of many drugs leaders use to satisfy carnal thirst and emotional voids. When we are unaware of our need for emotional and intimate connection, our eyes, ears, and affections are easily led down a temporary but euphoric pathway, leading only to slaughter. How can you protect your marriage from the demands placed on you in your leadership role? Let me suggest

A good leader motivates, doesn’t mislead, doesn’t exploit. Proverbs 16:10 explained You’re a leader and you are preparing a presentation to your team, investors, and stakeholders. Oh, and you only have an hour to prepare! I assume you are knowledgeable about the facts of your situation and you know the direction you want to go. Now, you have to organize your thoughts and present them in a positive and convincing manner. Here’s how. Preparing your Presentation Effectively in 3 steps Start with revealing WHAT IS. WHAT IS describes the good, bad, and ugly of the current situation. If you can spell this out in an honest and objective way, you will establish some credibility and others will see you have both feet planted on the ground of reality. This first part does not need to be long but it needs to be clear and to the point. Example: We have