Connecting says you matter. Collaborating says we matter. Courage says truth matters. It wasn’t until eighth grade that I ran into a leader who understood and practiced all three People Skills: Connecting, Collaborating, and Courage. You connect with people by showing genuine interest in them, and you create cooperation when you make leadership a dialogue. But you can’t finish the work without courage. The leader I’m referring to was a teacher and basketball coach. I clearly remember him sharing his inside-out perspective. On a regular basis, he would share what he was doing to become a better person, leader, and coach. Then he would ask us what he could do to be a better coach. We could never think of anything because he was already doing the work. But then he asked another question. He asked us — as individuals and as a team — what we were working on

This coaching moment is provided to participants within the Lead Today Community. What Hinders Effective Communication? That’s a negative tagline, but the communication problem has rarely been brought to my attention any other way. Yet no one in their right mind wants to begin this conversation from a negative perspective, so let’s change it. Let’s consider constructive keywords that guarantee improvement. While we focus on constructive words and ideas, we will not dodge the reality of destructive behaviors. Effective leaders must consider the good, the bad, and the ugly in order to see what needs to be done. Constructive Key Words That Will Improve Communication Presence. Many leaders struggle to stay in the moment. They are distracted by their devices because they have not created healthy boundaries. Due to technology, we are more accessible than ever before in the history of the human race. If you want to see improvement

What Credit Principles Can Teach Leaders About Growing Their Business Years ago, young bankers were taught to evaluate every loan through the lens of the Five C’s of Credit: Character, Capacity, Capital, Collateral, and Conditions. These weren’t just technical boxes to check—they were an attempt to answer one fundamental question: Can we trust this person or organization to grow, perform, and fulfill their commitments? Interestingly, the same question applies not only to borrowers but also to leaders, teams, and businesses pursuing growth. The deeper I’ve gone into leadership, the more I’ve come to realize that the Five C’s don’t belong only in the banking world—they belong at the heart of business development. In The Wisdom of Finance, Mihir Desai makes this observation: “Finance is, at its core, about promises—how we make them and how we keep them.” That one sentence reframes both finance and leadership. Business development isn’t ultimately about tactics, pipelines,

I’ve done some pretty dumb things in my life. How about you? If I’m honest, most of my greatest “what was I thinking?” moments all trace back to one thing: hurry. The time I backed into my wife’s car—in our own driveway. (Yes, we’re still married.) The time I drove off with important items still on top of my car… you could follow the trail like breadcrumbs. The time I made an expensive purchase I later regretted… because panic-buying is always wise. The many times I opened my mouth when silence would have been golden. Hurry makes otherwise sane adults act like contestants on a bad reality show. The Better Way Psalm 46:10 offers the antidote: “Be still and know that I am God.” Your soul is the command center—what you think, feel, and do. Your body animates whatever’s happening in your soul (hence the chaos when your soul is in chaos). Your spirit is God’s very breath keeping it

Every leader will live out their purpose by aligning the three essentials of life. This is what working on your life looks like. Essential #1: Your Person. The first essential is you. Your person. This involves answering the key questions of life. How did I get here? Why am I here? Where will I go when I die? Ultimately, these questions seek the answer to purpose. How you answer the question of origin sets the path for the next two questions. For example, if you believe you were created, there must be a reason. If you evolved, that’s a dead end. You were created by God’s willful act. You were created for Him. He created you for His own purposes. Therefore, faith and fellowship with Him is the overarching purpose. Your mission on earth is your opportunity to be part of the story He is writing. When you die, the

Inner conflict and Insecurity Insecurity is the root of conflict. Inner conflict and conflict between two or more persons. There are many feelings associated with insecurity. Some of the most common: are a sense of threat, fear, worry, anxiety, offense, frustration, and anger. All these words or phrases lead toward one very strong feeling: a sense of losing control.  Ironic. We fear losing something we never had. I don’t need any scientific research to convince me that insecurity takes years off of my life. Insecurity and all of her cousins are both a cause and an effect. They cause me to act out in unbecoming ways. Behaviors that produce more problems. And MORE is the effect. But what causes insecurity?  Bad theology, Bad psychology, Bad thinking.  Rick Warren’s best-selling book, The Purpose Driven Life, starts out with four words: It’s not about you. Those four words might feel like a

My father gifted me with a large bible. We placed it in a display box and opened it to Psalm One. It sits proudly on a shelf in my office. Psalm One is a classic biblical passage describing two completely different paths of life. It is a poetic narrative that contrasts between the man who chooses the path of God’s instructions versus the path of wicked men. I memorized it as a child and meditate on it even to this day. It’s not simply a “Thou Shalt Not” text. It is a life-giving narrative. Consider some of its phrases describing the one who stays on the right path: Happy or blessed is the man… His delight is in the Lord’s instruction… He meditates on it day and night… He is like a tree planted by streams of water… Bears its fruit in season Whose leaf does not whither Whatever he

I was reading the book of Proverbs this morning, as I often do. Typically, I read the chapter that corresponds with the day of the month. For instance, if today is the 15th, I read Proverbs 15. However, since it was February 12, I read the 12th chapter. The following phrases jumped out at me: Whoever ignores an insult is sensible… There is one who speaks rashly, like a piercing sword; but the tongue of the wise brings healing. These two phrases reminded me of a recent interview I had with Blake Coffee on The Today Counts Show. At one point we were talking about meaningful conversations. Significant words that build relationships and community. As I recall, they were these: Sharing words of affirmation. These are positive words based on the present and the past. Sharing words of exhortation. These are stronger words of inspiration focussed on what’s next, the

The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge; fools despise wisdom and instruction – Proverbs 1:7 What we believe matters. It shapes how we think and how we behave. It determines our focus – what’s important to us. What we believe is our treasure.  At Work It’s our secret weapon at work. If you believe in your organization, the leadership, the direction, and the strategy, you will perform at your best. If you doubt one or more of these components, your performance will not be your best. At Home What you believe about the purpose of family determines the priority you place upon it. Many don’t realize the treasure of family until they lose it. They never really embraced the whole package – the good, bad, and ugly. Belief is stronger than circumstances and feelings. Believing is becoming. When you believe faithfulness in marriage, to the end, is

A wise person thirsts for knowledge, while the fool feeds on trash – A Christian Proverb If you are a leader, you feed others with vision, values, and influence. You are the well where people gather to quench their thirst – to get affirmation and exhortation. To be encouraged and to receive direction. To be empowered. You cannot do this effectively if you are dry. You have no fresh water, no new insights, no sustaining passion. Your energy is decreasing. You are becoming impatient. You unknowingly are reaching for some kind of convenient fix. Something to make you feel better. Shortcuts. You’re faking it or you’ve been reduced to just trying to get by. Your words have no power and your thoughts are scattered. When your well is wet and filling up you have plenty to share. In fact, it just flows out of you. When you’re full of good

I sent the following note to my family: What do I want to do with the rest of my life? I believe life is a gift from God and what I do with it is my gift back to him. I believe I will literally be able to hand my life back to him someday. I want to continue to grow my faith, practice, and contributions  I want to enjoy and invest in my marriage. I want to enjoy and invest in my kids (Jim & Amanda, Mandy & Greg). I want to enjoy and invest in my grandkids – each one, as individuals and as a group. I want to take care of myself: body & soul. This includes identifying bad habits and mastering them (my intake of food and drink, my thoughts, my words, and my actions). I want to live in a positive yet counter-cultural way, always

Intelligent people are always ready to learn. Their ears are open for knowledge. Proverbs 18.15 Good perspective is good theology. It’s your life philosophy. Do you have one? Yes, I know you do. One day I realized something. I consciously recognized that I did not choose to be born. I did not choose life. Nor did I have the power to do so. I had no consciousness. I did not exist, except in the mind of God. If that’s true, then life is a gift. No matter how long or short. Whether good or bad, it’s a gift. What makes it a gift? Your soul makes it a gift. Think of your soul as a spiritual and eternal location, an address where God can find you.  Once our body finally says, “I’m done, that’s all I got,” our soul returns to the one who thought us into existence – no

I just finished a podcast interview with Gary Harpst, the author of Built to Beat Chaos.  “I’ve never had a job in my life”. This was one of the first things he said to me before I began recording. Did he mean it literally or figuratively? Discovering Your Purpose During our discussion, he brought up the idea of purpose. He said that leaders have two primary responsibilities. To define the purpose of their organization and to build a culture that best supports both the people and the purpose. I like that. Simple does not mean easy but it really helps create clarity and focus. He also said something only an engineer’s mind would think. He said that because we are made in the image of God, we can learn about our purpose by learning about God through not only the Bible and participating in a church but also by taking

I am happy to say last year was a good year for me, and I hope the same for you. It was not a perfect year—because life just doesn’t work that way—but I did accomplish my one goal. My one BIG goal. It was not easy. In fact, it was much more difficult than I imagined. But isn’t that true with most worthy goals? Capturing a Resilient Perspective: Three Focus Circles Like you, I am not a perfect human being, but I have learned to practice a resilient perspective. That kind of perspective embraces thoughtfulness, self-awareness, self-leadership, gratefulness, and focus. What I’m about to share works for me, and it has proven helpful to many of my clients. Imagine a dart board—a target. There are three overlapping rings or circles. The one in the middle, we often call the bull’s eye. Picture that center circle on your target, but larger