“Insecurity,” that was the answer Johnny Sirpilla gave me during one of my recent podcasts. I was asking questions about conflict. Unnecessary conflict. Why do so many leadership teams struggle to work together? To get things done?
- Uncertainty or anxiety about oneself; lack of confidence:
she had a deep sense of insecurity | he’s plagued with insecurities.
- The state of being open to danger or threat; lack of protection:
growing job insecurity | the insecurity of wireless networks.
Both definitions help us examine ourselves and our leadership skills.
I don’t think insecurity by itself is our greatest threat, it’s the lack of conscious awareness of its presence. When we operate from unconscious insecurity we:
- Sense a threat that most often does not exist
- We speak too quickly or not at all
- We are slow to take responsibility
- We blame
- Anxiety increases along with our heart rate
- We are not enjoying our work or relationships
- We are unproductive
After that, almost anything is possible.